Slope and aspect together tell you about the normal direction to the surface. This is an arrow of unit length pointing straight out from the surface. At a horizontal point it is straight up; along a sheer cliff wall it is almost straight out.
The variation in this direction can be assessed using the spherical standard deviation of the normal direction within a local neighborhood. This is found by expressing the normal directions on the DEM's cells in terms of their displacements in a Cartesian (x,y,z) coordinate system. Averaging the x-coordinates, y-coordinates, and z-coordinates separately gives a vector (xb, yb, zb) pointing in the direction of the average normal. This vector will be shorter when there is more variation of the normals and it will be longest--equal to unity--when there is no variation. Its squared length is (by the Pythagorean theorem) given by
R^2 = xb^2 + yb^2 + zb^2
The value 1 - R^2, which will lie between 0 and 1 (up to floating point error), is the spherical variance. Its square root can be considered a "spherical standard deviation" (SD). It is a good solution to this problem. Pick locations where the spherical SD is close to zero.
To find the coordinates (x, y, z), use map algebra to compute the cosines and sines of the slope and aspect. Apply the formulas for converting between spherical and cartesian coordinates:
x = cos(aspect) * sin(slope)
y = sin(aspect) * sin(slope)
z = cos(slope)
After finding these three grids, compute the neighborhood means (focal means) of each one to obtain the grids (xb, yb, zb). Use the same neighborhood for each, such as a 3x3 or 5x5 neighborhood, extending approximately to a typical distance of the regions you wish to study. A final set of map algebra steps delivers a grid of R values.
As an example, here is a DEM of a mountainous region, shown hillshaded:
The legend at the left shows the sequence of calculations from bottom to top. Here is the resulting SD map, based on a 5 x 5 circular neighborhood (a radius of 150 meters):
The darkest blue areas are the flattest. They clearly occur in the piedmont region to the lower right and along some river valleys, especially in the middle left. Some of these flat regions are pretty steep: look at the incised stream valley immediately left of the prominent central peak (most of whose areas have high variance).